Don't mix the 20 for the 80

Relationships often start off with the excitement of having something new in your life.  New partner, new adventures and best of all new sexual partner.
We often fall in lust with the excitement of a new chase.  Then what happens when that subsides?

When the thrill is gone, you begin looking and learning your partner.  You can disagree on subjects as small as what movies each likes, how clean one another is, how you like to spend weekends or even vacations.
To understand and make the relationship work, you have to compromise.  Some are not willing to take that leap.  The differences could lead to the discovery of even MORE dislikes. So....

Here comes the 80/20 rule.  What could seem as minor instances such as:  not wanting to go out, falling asleep, no romance, the thrill and excitement in your sex life is gone, video games and television take priority could lead to looking for the 20 percent of what is missing in the relationship.  Your partner should have 80 percent of what you need and definitely want.  Well, what happens when someone new brings about the 20?  What is this?  It could be new exciting sex, spontaneity, or just anything you feel your partner is missing. Be careful of what blinds you in the new person.  New sex?  New face or piece of ass?  Is it worth leaving what you already have at  home.  Be advised when you are making life long decisions that could affect you for a lifetime.

You may see a new excitement come along, and it arouses you.  The arousal is taken so far that you believe that they have everything that you need in a person, but do they really.  Know the saying the grass isn't greener on the other side?  Take heed, in most situations this is very true.  Once you step out and gather the 20, you spend time, you have all the "aspects" that you need in a a partner, the sex is great and definitely mind blowing.  But what did you leave your 80 for?  What happens when the thrill leaves you and you see the real person? Was it worth leaving your relationship for?


If you ask yourself the question and feel the relationship is worth fighting for, sit down and talk to each other.  See what the other expects and how you can work to get the fire back in the relationship.  A lot of times, sex, conversation and intellect is why the eye may stray.  Lay out your expectations, if it is worth the fight then each party will do what they need to. Do not wait until you get so deep and out of control to regret the decision you made, in which a lot of times is only a lust factor.